We are all our own worst critics. That is especially true for me. In a recent graded assignment, I was told that I have humility. I know it was meant as a compliment, but my humility has a negative side. I think this holds me back in my presentations and is reflected in my professional PRESENCE. Olivia Mitchell published some insights about how to cultivate an attitude of boldness. Below are some of her suggestions.
- Stop being nice – Olivia suggests that we often want people to like us. This holds us back. She quotes Oren Harari as saying “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” How true.
- Saying what you think enhances your career – Not always. Be careful. But for those of us who have plenty of humility, it pays to give input. People who give input are seen as leaders.
- Not saying what you think annoys people – Don’t hold back. Sometimes we only have one shot to advocate for someone else. How many times have you left a situation where you thought.. ‘I should have said….”
- Your ideas can help other people – Derek Sivers has some insight that encourages us to share some of our ideas. What is obvious to you may not be to others.
- What’s the worst that can happen? – This was discussed in class as a relaxation technique. Really, before a presentation, this is something that I must grasp. On the flip side, in difficult conversations, it’s important to give people honest feedback. Often they will thank you and respect the fact that you were honest.
These are ways I plan to cultivate an attitude of boldness.
Next up… how to be bold in a presentation.
